We have people mining Big Data in order to serve up exactly what we want. Siri and Alexa learn our preferences based on our past behavior and choices. But what if you want something new, out of the box? Instead of deepening the ruts in your life (the neural networks of your usual thinking and beliefs) how about creating new tendrils that might take root? Consciously choose differently. If you always start up the stairs with your right foot, deliberately choose to start with the left. Stir your coffee in the opposite of your usual direction. Like flicking one vane on a mobile, the whole thing goes into motion. The smallest action cracks open the door to new possibilities.
What are you hungry for? It may not be what you think. I have enjoyed extravagant meals in France and Italy - food to delight the eye, dazzle the palette and satiate the most gluttonous appetite. They were memorable but not the most appreciated. The best meal I ever had was at a mountain hut at about 11,000 ft. We’d been hiking and scrambling on rocks all day and were starved. We lined up our mess kits to receive a large spoonful of instant mashed potatoes, mixed with canned corned beef. As it plopped onto my aluminum plate, I received it with blissful joy. Dessert was a tropical delicacy that I never fully appreciated at home, a fresh orange. That night we sat around a candle in the hut, drinking mint tea, and planning the next day’s adventures.
The list for the best ingredients to make both a great meal and a great life are:
- HUNGER - Allow yourself to desire. All things are better when you hunger for them. Instant gratification doesn’t gratify for long.
- CREATIVITY - Work with what you have. You have the ingenuity to do great things with what is at hand.
- GRATITUDE - The world is brimming with good things. Look for them and be amazed at your good fortune.
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I started to hate my job, but I couldn’t leave because I needed the money. I could feel the increasing conflicts in my body. Migraines. Back aches. My anger and frustration should have told me that I was way out of balance with my values and ethics, but I saw the problem as “them” rather than me. I was causing myself misery by staying in a toxic environment and choosing a salary over my peace of mind.
When you have a lot invested in a career, sometimes it is hard to change direction. If you can’t find a way to better align with what you spend your days doing, the universe will do it for you. I got fired. I was set free of a horrible situation that I didn’t have the courage to leave on my own. A year later, the CEO and several VPs were sued for insider trading. The stock price plummeted. I didn’t feel avenged as much as grateful that I was no longer working there.
Toleration is not a passive act. To put up with a bad job, or a bad relationship, takes energy. As you invest your time and intelligence, what’s your ROI? Is it time for a change?
Somewhere over the age of 30 we begin to think we know who we are. We have become a collection of labels, married/divorced, sexual identity, educational attainment, seasoned with some adventures, successes, and failures. We take this carefully curated collection of labels and then build on it or let it ossify into a Museum of Me. The truth is that there is a whole whirling world waiting to be explored. Whether life has forced you to make changes or you just are sick of the rut that you find yourself in, it might be time to explore the possibilities. If you’d like someone riding shotgun, contact me at stand8.com.