To change, you have to LET GO of an old belief or habit of thought. But how? I’ve found that the easiest way is to look at something else. We distract toddlers when they fall down and start crying, rather than dwell on the startling event which has disrupted their activities. We try to engage them with a toy or a new goal. Soon, they are happily on their way again. It works for adults as well. You can dwell on what’s not working for you, or you can change it up. Distract yourself. Stir your coffee in the opposite direction or head up the stairs leading with the opposite of your usual foot. Any conscious choice will alter your trajectory.
One day I noticed a piece of black electrical tape over one of the warning lights on the dashboard of Dad’s old Bronco. He explained that the problem could not be diagnosed by himself, nor the dealer, and he was sick of looking at it. Confident that the light did not indicate an actual problem, he blacked it out with a piece of tape. Dashboard lights are like people’s opinions. Don’t let them distract you. If the experts, gurus, doctors, pundits, or anyone else is telling you how you should live your life, listen to them with full awareness of their agenda. Better yet, notice how you feel when you listen to them. This is a warning.
Follow your knowing, even if it’s wrong.
When you’re stuck, challenge your assumptions. Maybe you’re looking at it backwards. Explore the opposite point of view. WHAT IF...they were making raisins instead of grapes? WHAT IF...it’s not too late, there are no obstacles, it’s not your job? The limits were placed there by you. You chose to believe them.
Things move quickly in high tech. The competitors never sleep, the clients need it yesterday, and the platform you’re working on is often shifting. We hired a new salesman who used to be a firefighter. He watched us running around, super stressed out and offered a piece of wisdom from his former job. “When we arrived at the site of a call, the first thing we asked was, ‘Will there be a loss of life here?’”
It gave us perspective. What we were doing was important to us and our clients, but likely no one would die if we didn’t deliver ASAP. Besides, if you ratchet back the tension, people work better and creativity flows more easily. We hung our salesman’s old fire helmet in the hall to remind us that when things get hot, it’s good to keep a cool head.