We had just started up a scree field, a chute of loose gravel where, for every step you took, you’d slide back a half step. Sometimes life feels like a slog, where the progress is slower than you’d like, but remember, the odds are in your favor. Stick with it, and like an airplane flying into a headwind, you’ll still get to your destination. Don’t quit too soon.
Stay open. Pay attention.
A pilot friend of mine once told me, “Runway behind you does you no good.” It’s useful to look back to see how you got here, but that is not necessarily a predictor of what’s ahead. Keep your eyes on the horizon. Everything is in front of you.
Who is trying to influence you? Answer: Everyone.
There are 3 ways to navigate through life. In boating terms, you can drift (and hope you end up where you want to go), or motor (power through), or sail, noticing the tides and winds and working with them to get to where you want to go. Sailing may seem less direct, but the journey is as important as the destination. Which way is the wind blowing today? How can you work with it?
Henry Ford did not invent the assembly line (any more than Steve Jobs’ MacIntosh was the first GUI). These men saw something in a different context and borrowed the ideas for their own applications. Ransom E. Olds held the patent for the assembly line. But Henry Ford, inspired by the “disassembly” line of the Swift Meatpacking business, where pig and cow carcasses moved past workers to be butchered, inspired him to create the first moving automotive assembly line which would help him step up production on his wildly popular Model T. What idea has caught your eye recently? How could you apply it to what you’re working on?
A friend relayed a story about telling his doctor that he felt horrible every time he ate pasta. His doctor said, “Quit eating pasta!”
It reminded me of getting a medical work-up because I thought I had an ulcer. My gut hurt but all the tests were negative. I had been in a protracted argument with someone and I was giving away my power by not taking action. I was awaiting his permission and even though I was free to act on my own, I wanted his agreement.
I said to the doctor, “I’d hate to think that every time I get upset, my gut is going to hurt.” He asked me, “What are you going to do about it?”
I took action (without anyone’s consent) and my gut was instantly cured. I’ve since learned that when I’m not true to myself and can’t hear my intuition, the truth is in the body.
My father passed on his love of all things mechanical and believed that his daughter needed her own set of tools as she headed off to college. He grew up in an era where nothing was wasted and little was disposable, so he attached an old hatchet handle to a hammer head with a couple of nails. Today there is a special tool for every possible endeavor, but this hammer is still in use. It reminds me that often, problems can be solved with what is at hand. And if not, perhaps you need a new perspective and a little ingenuity.
What are you waiting for?
We have people mining Big Data in order to serve up exactly what we want. Siri and Alexa learn our preferences based on our past behavior and choices. But what if you want something new, out of the box? Instead of deepening the ruts in your life (the neural networks of your usual thinking and beliefs) how about creating new tendrils that might take root? Consciously choose differently. If you always start up the stairs with your right foot, deliberately choose to start with the left. Stir your coffee in the opposite of your usual direction. Like flicking one vane on a mobile, the whole thing goes into motion. The smallest action cracks open the door to new possibilities.
What are you hungry for? It may not be what you think. I have enjoyed extravagant meals in France and Italy - food to delight the eye, dazzle the palette and satiate the most gluttonous appetite. They were memorable but not the most appreciated. The best meal I ever had was at a mountain hut at about 11,000 ft. We’d been hiking and scrambling on rocks all day and were starved. We lined up our mess kits to receive a large spoonful of instant mashed potatoes, mixed with canned corned beef. As it plopped onto my aluminum plate, I received it with blissful joy. Dessert was a tropical delicacy that I never fully appreciated at home, a fresh orange. That night we sat around a candle in the hut, drinking mint tea, and planning the next day’s adventures.
The list for the best ingredients to make both a great meal and a great life are:
- HUNGER - Allow yourself to desire. All things are better when you hunger for them. Instant gratification doesn’t gratify for long.
- CREATIVITY - Work with what you have. You have the ingenuity to do great things with what is at hand.
- GRATITUDE - The world is brimming with good things. Look for them and be amazed at your good fortune.
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I started to hate my job, but I couldn’t leave because I needed the money. I could feel the increasing conflicts in my body. Migraines. Back aches. My anger and frustration should have told me that I was way out of balance with my values and ethics, but I saw the problem as “them” rather than me. I was causing myself misery by staying in a toxic environment and choosing a salary over my peace of mind.
When you have a lot invested in a career, sometimes it is hard to change direction. If you can’t find a way to better align with what you spend your days doing, the universe will do it for you. I got fired. I was set free of a horrible situation that I didn’t have the courage to leave on my own. A year later, the CEO and several VPs were sued for insider trading. The stock price plummeted. I didn’t feel avenged as much as grateful that I was no longer working there.
Toleration is not a passive act. To put up with a bad job, or a bad relationship, takes energy. As you invest your time and intelligence, what’s your ROI? Is it time for a change?
Somewhere over the age of 30 we begin to think we know who we are. We have become a collection of labels, married/divorced, sexual identity, educational attainment, seasoned with some adventures, successes, and failures. We take this carefully curated collection of labels and then build on it or let it ossify into a Museum of Me. The truth is that there is a whole whirling world waiting to be explored. Whether life has forced you to make changes or you just are sick of the rut that you find yourself in, it might be time to explore the possibilities. If you’d like someone riding shotgun, contact me at stand8.com.